The 3 F in action!

Why does love scare most people?

Is it not ironical that we live to fulfill our needs of security, happiness, peace and love and when either of it comes knocking, we fly away from that situation!

Our conditioned responses and past experiences are so overpowering that a connection and potential of pure love is kicked out by none other than ourselves...

Whatever may have happened in our lives, does love not deserve another chance? Are we not shoving away one of the most powerful emotions in the world, in the fear of being vulnerable to get hurt, yet again...

The firing of the hormones by our sympathetic nervous system in case of survival leads us to either fight, flight or freeze! Whenever we think survival to be at stake, the sympathetic nervous system takes over... And in the case of love, it's flight more than the the other two!

But what does the system think? Who's survival is at stake? Is love not one of the best feelings in the world? Is love a threat to life? Yes, indeed, it is a threat; for it has the potential to bring alive the real you and permanently bury the fearful-personality of ego that you have built up as a part of your defenses over the last few decades...

Wake up, Dear Soul! Take over... Let Love be the New Normal... The world needs it more than ever!

An Evening of Subtle Surprises...

Plans lead to implementations and just a commitment leads to surprises!

Meeting yet another member of the Legal Community was a different experience. A visit to the super crowded Gurudwara Bangla Sahab on a Sunday evening, made us individuals there, and not two people together. Perhaps, it is a space where people do come for their conversations with God and hence, human beings can wait!

In spite of the full focus on God, there was an inclusion in the ways of being demonstrated. Little did I know that it was an evening well planned and executed with a lot of efforts.

It is said, time is money. Few people also say that time is life! So in this time & age, time is a rare commodity, we also meet our near and dear ones with a deadline and at times, like a task to be done. 
And this sweet human being, left his meeting halfway to meet me on the scheduled time and made efforts to find out & plan a perfect place for dinner. 

His simplicity, attention to the other person and being observant touched me deeply! People got no time in todays' world to "make" someone feel good. He made time to make me feel the evening!

At times, love does not come in the form and from the person we want but what I do know now is that love comes... in forms and shapes that makes life more meaningful. 

His efforts of choosing the place, ensuring the ambiance is apt for what he thought was appropriate, getting everything arranged to make it just perfect, did not let me tell him my food preferences! I was at discomfort because I wanted to communicate. At the end of it all, I am glad that I did not. Far too much had gone into planning and making the evening the way it went, my preferences were not important...

Lesson Learnt: capsules of love take precedence over significant commitments and even the words given.

I am in awe of this magnificence of life... I am intrigued at how it ensures to give us a lot more than we insist on what we want. When we let go or just intend to let go of what we want, with specificity, life opens a whole new dimension...

Accept... Trust... Love...

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बदलते रिश्तें , बिख़रते जज़्बात

Kisi ne sach hi kaha hai: rishto ke roop badalte hai, naye naye saache mein dhalte hai...

Aaj ek udhaaran mila uska...

साथ गुज़ारा हैं हमने वक़्त ऐसा ,

देखें बिना चैन ना आये जैसा ,

ज़िन्दगी की सब हदें करी हैं पार ,

एक दुसरे के लिए किया हैं सब निसार।  

चलते चलते थक जाते थे जब ,

देख उस अपने को निखर जाते थे तब ,

बैठे हुए सुबह से शाम हो जाती थी ,

फिर मिलने की इंतज़ार में मानो , जैसे जान ही चली जाती थी।  

आज लम्हे वो याद आये सारे के सारे , 

जब उसने किया वो सब कुछ किनारे ,

दस सीढ़ियों का फासला ना तय कर पाया वो ,

सूरत देखने पलट के ना आ पाया वो। 

अंजानो की तरह फ़ोन रख दिया ,

जाने बिना ही हाल , काम ख़त्म किया ,

पलों पर लगता है चढ़ गई है धूल , 

प्यार की नज़र ने मान ली है अपनी भूल। 

गुलज़ार साहब की वो पंक्तिया याद आ गई: 

फ़ासलो का अहसास तब हुआ 
जब मैंने कहा... ठीक हूँ 
और 
उसने... 
मान लिया 

A Friend Of Hope...

Knock, Knock

Who's There?

Destiny.

What do you want?

Nothing! I am here to give...

What?

A Wise Boy: its' to you, to make him a Loving Man...

pic courtesy: https://hallofquotes.com

Boys don't have dreamy eyes of innocence anymore! They now have experiences to share.. tales to tell... of their journey from a trusting kid to a "cautious" man... 

I didn't see him in his eyes,
For I thought, I might get locked in them forever, 
I heard his voice as he spoke & spoke, 
Though I understood his silence more...

The man I met at the camp, 
Was wise, friendly and courteous,
The boy I felt that night,
Is silent, deep and melancholic...

Operating from the instincts of survival,
Little does he know about his power,
Setting himself on the default mode,
It's time to put the "reset" button...

MBA is in near future,
Life is ready for a 180 degree rupture,
I send him vibes of "stay true to your essence",
While I fear, we will lose another soul,
in the name of "Growing up"...

Creative Juices Flow Again...

Life, post dengue, has been weird, to express in the most sophisticated manner.

I am running out of ideas, stress has been gripping me (something that never happened), my energy is below the ground and cognition is getting affected, majorly!

A silver lining came a few days ago. Attending to an emergency in the family, I flew to my birth place.

Good Gracious God has been very kind to us and our family member got well. That left me with some free time and no work! Those who know me close, know that its' as frequent as the leap year!

Suddenly, out of the blue, I had an idea... another one followed it and then another one. Those reading this may think, whats' the big deal! For me, it is!

Its' been the norm of the day that umpteen ideas come to me. There were so many of them that I had to start maintaining an Ideation Creation diary! But the last 4 months have been most dull and in their lowest lull!

The great news is, I am back and so are my ideas!

A big realisation came along with it... Too much structured work led me to stop the flow of spontaneity and that also stopped the idea... I have loosened up and am giving myself more space and less structured work... It will pay off better!