"Thats' the way I am..."

This is a statement we hear quite often both from the young and the old alike... Flexibility, the adaptability to mould oneself is increasing and decreasing at the same time. It is increasing perhaps in the adults today, that is, the previous generation. With the advent of the tech-age, our parents find it difficult to relate to our generation. What I have seen around is that the women of that era have rather adapted themselves well to this current world, to us and our lives. My mother has done that quite a bit. Actually, her case is no different...

She has spend her prime time and about 50% of her life taking care of her family- the in-laws, husband, children etc etc. She is a perfect example of a perfect womanhood whose been an excellent daughter, wife, sister, mother, friend, guide......... but all her life, she never met and did anything for herself. She did not think it to be important enough to form and nurture a relationship with her own self, so much so, she never even prepared a dish to her liking.

Her twentys was a lot of fun with education being her priority and recreational activities defined her life then. Life changed rather too dramatically for her and kitchen became her life.

After 30 years, we decided to make her breathe now. She will now pursue her interests in life after three decades and she is ready to take this fun challenging roller coaster ride by giving a head-start to her passions now.

Mum, I realise it is difficult for you. When a 4-year old just around and says, "thats' the way I do it!", we know it is his comfort zone to do things the way he is used to doing and does not wish to come out of his shell. But here you are whose ready to take off ;-) and face the world when not much is in your favour.

I wish you luck and I pray for you. I bow down for it is a courageous act which can be thought by only a woman of your virtues...

Kudos, Mommy!!! :-)

Humanity is still breathing.......

A human mind is extremely complex and what occurs at which level, it is equally complex to understand!!! One fine day, my mother just decided to keep a chaliya and choose a Gurudwara near by, convenient enough for her to walk. But somehow she forgot the traffic dynamics in the evening and the mad rush from Gurgaon makes it impossible to cross the road and hop across... Usually, I am not a traveller by foot but thanks to this beautiful weather in Delhi nowadays; one of the days, I decided to accompany her to the Gurudwara...

I am pathetic at crossing roads and that day,I got to know I inherited this from my mother!!! ;-) Somehow we managed to cross the one side of the road, right in the middle, equidistant from the signal...

After the darshan at the Gurudwara, on our way back, I "instructed" my mother to follow me since I would not prefer a road-accident a way to end this birth!!! ;-) We were struggling to move towards the signal. The rain-Gods have blessed Delhi with excellent monsoons this time; the flip side of which is the appearance of the water puddles on the road. Lifting our lowers, we were hoping against hope that our clothes do not get soiled... Traffic was usual and nobody had time to look at us and assist us in crossing the road. That moment, I saw a bus coming our way, I thought to myself, since we are walking right at the corner, what could have been a pedestrian path, our clothes will not be spared today. Somehow, I think, the driver saw the expression on my face and he almost stopped his bus so that the dirty water does not come to us and even signalled us to cross the road... I smiled looking at him and expressed my gratitude. 

Successful at crossing the main busy road, we reached home and mum got busy with chores. The incident is about 10 days old.Amazed at his silent assistance to us, yet substantial, his care and humanity would remain fresh in my mind for times to come. Here, even 2-wheelers don't stop, forget buses...Everyone is so caught in their daily affairs and competing to win a rat race. No one slows down and relaxes.

This small incident made me understand that it is very important to pause in life and not only enjoy, but have a look around to extend a helping hand, which does not cause either money or time, but can make someones' day. Also, a huge bus was thoughtful enough to saw a humans attempt to get across, in the similar manner, nothing is hidden from God, He initiates us on the path of righteousness and then for each step we take, he takes a lot many... We need to trust Him that we are of immense importance to Him and we are always loved and never ignored.

Thank you, Mr. Blueline Officer, Blessings to you :-)