I owe you this…

Straight from childhood, a “meme” that is been with me with immense strength is- communication is most important and an absolute necessity. And it is only with communication that relationships become better, stronger and happier. The need to communicate and put my point across, whether professionally or personally, has been my priority all along. As I grew up, I left a few not-so-good habits only to adopt a new set of not-so-good habits, ;-), thereby being the same person with the same ratio of good and not-so-good habits, of different nature though…

I fight enough with those people who genuinely talk less encouraging or more appropriately, forcing, them to speak-up and express themselves. I do understand that most of this lot does not have the “capacity” to do that but that has never been a deterrent for me ;-), solely because I feel that the very reason human beings have been gifted with speech, implies they should talk and use it to their benefit for establishing harmony and more beautiful relationships. Also, I am no God, not anywhere near Him, and I do not have a strong maternal instinct to know and feel their needs and I am not here to understand the “implied”, just here to take what is being said!

While conversing with one of the darling Angels of my life, :-) she said something, which definitely shook this meme-

“Our relationship is beyond words and the expression they can offer. Ours is a relationship of abundance…”

I think I believe my childhood theory, though a testing hypothesis in real life will prove this way or that ;-)

This made me think and honestly, I am still contemplating, is this not the sole truth of life?? I mean it can keep relationships wonderful and intact at least for a lifetime. I have heard my mom saying it enough times, “I can’t understand why I need to say I love you everyday, is it not obvious? Why do I need to talk and tell my expectations and my botheration, can you not figure out what I feel…?” Etc etc… and I have and I still do always emphasised, telling her, “mom, you should speak up- it is important to express what you feel for a person and it is imperative to articulate what is your need and expectations from that person, so that the relationship is streamlined and we are on the same track with similar objectives to achieve.”

On numerous other occasions, with friends (though lesser times!), relatives and of course, the breed we call Boyfriends… Uff!!! :-( It is a perpetual problem with them-it is in their genes not to express, “…understand I love you and I am here for you, (irrespective of how I treat you and behave and whether I give time and whether I can take you home and whether its’ been months that I expressed my love for you…… but I love you- UNDERSTAND!)” and lets’ not even get to their talk on expectations, people like us who express are living in a fools’ paradise and we should get REALISTIC, and people like THEM who “know-it-all” are sure that we should meet all their criteria and expectations, almost all of them unsaid and unexpressed… because we are “suppose” to identify with them extremely well… rules of the game are different for us and them!!!

But now, tables seem to be getting reversed… after what I heard from my angel, I have started to feel, in retrospect as well as in present, a close relationship once near achieved its’ fullness and contentment and is secured, after having had enough talks ;-) is here to stay… the feeling of “taken for granted” should not set in as it is hazardous to the health of the relationship but if the small activities of daily life are taken care of sensitively, relationships like these transform them into this rare category of “The Relationship of Abundance” where it is a beautiful fairy world where holding hands have more value than “I Love You”, where feeling the need and just being by the side without the analytical bend of addressing it is placed higher than demanding attention, where silence is actually gold for heart beats have more meaning than words, where the lunar of love never sets and is shining bright alongside the solar of iternity…

Meena Di, I owe you this… for opening this door for me and innocently being My Guiding Angel (for about a year now) :-) channelising my energy towards nourishing heart-warming relationships for life and making a little capable to take care of my worldly duties :-)

I bow down with immense gratitude for sharing with me this bond of an uncommon-diamond-relationship...

Jai Guru Dev! :-)

I FELL IN LOVE…

We have grown up with coffee and it has been around us, being our friend at all times. It is an indispensible part of our life, whether to strike a conversation, make-up with partners or have fun with friends.

My relationship with coffee has been a little different… it was never a necessity for my health, neither a totka to keep me awake, therefore, I have avoided it all along, it has been in my life just giving a sprinkler-effect…

Being more of a milk person because of its’ softness and care, I never really got attracted to coffee, for its’ strength seems hard to endure.

But a twist came in the kahani when I travelled to Tamil Nadu. A small town in Tamil Nadu by the name of Mayiladuthurai welcomed us with open arms and we, almost instantly, fell in love with the serenity and the calmness of the city. Such is our country, presenting a vast variety, ranging from the maddening Mumbai to the self-paced Delhi to the relaxed Chandigarh to the beautiful Bangalore to a chilled-out Goa and now, a calm, quiet town. One can never get enough of this country.

Spiritual activities kept us busy during the day. It was only at night when we stepped out for a meal, I met coffee. This time the meeting was a lot different than the previous ones. It came in a different package, neither in one of those big ceramic cups of Barista, nor in the plastic ones of the CCD, it was in a small glass of steel with a small utensil under it, like one chotu sa patila, really miniature one… I kept wondering if I am suppose to drink the spilled coffee from the patila as well but decided not to as it already looked beyond my capacity to drink it (it was dark brown!!). As I took its’ first sip, it seemed I was drinking it for the first time, and I ended up drinking from the patila as well. Though the coffee and the uttapam was priced the same, it was still very economical, just 20 bucks…

The two days we stayed there, I did not skip the famous Filter Coffee, not because of its’ popularity but because of its’ taste, its’ strength yet its’ smoothness and charm swept me off my feet and my love for coffee began…

Although I did not get the same coffee in Delhi after that, now I drink it with taste and have been adoring it for the combo it offers- the crisp flavour, the smooth texture, the rich fragrance, the royal love… (pun intended!) ;-)

and I fell in love... this time with coffee